If you must take part in this sexist, quasi-misogynistic ritual, you might as well win.

Step 1: Change your shoes

Shortly before the bouquet-tossing ceremony, start warming up. Kick off your heels and do a stretching routine. Or, if you’re deadly serious, change into athletic shoes. Good footing is key to beating out the other brides-to-be.

Step 2: Pick your spot

When the single gals are called to the center of the dance floor, wait until everyone else is assembled. Then plant yourself in front of the bride’s closest friend or relative—that’s who she’ll be aiming for.

Step 3: Adopt a wide stance

Adopt a wide stance—the kind former Senator Larry Craig claims to use in airport bathrooms. Put one foot slightly in front of the other, so you can dash forward or backward as needed.

Step 4: Bend

Bend your knees slightly and have your arms raised in the ready position.

Step 5: Make adjustments

As the bouquet begins its flight path, adjust your position as necessary, even if that means stepping on a few toes—or smacking a few faces. Don’t be afraid of a little body contact, especially if the throw goes long—and people are in your way.

Step 6: Grab

Leap into the air, grab the bouquet with both hands, pull it close to your chest, and hold on for dear life!

Step 7: Celebrate

Savor your victory. More importantly, enjoy the others’ defeat.