How to Flirt Online
Whether you're one of the 40 million people looking for love on a dating website or just chatting with a cute someone, make your messages must-reads!
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Learn how to flirt -- and how to know if he's into you -- with the advice in these Howcast videos.
You Will Need
- A positive attitude
- And confidence
Steps
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Step 1
Be positive
Be positive. The fastest way to end flirty banter is to be Debbie Downer.
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Step 2
Be confident
Sound confident--even if you're not. People are attracted to self-assurance.
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Step 3
Be funny
Use humor. If witty repartee isn't your strong suit, repeat something someone else said that you found funny, or share something amusing you read in the paper.
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Step 4
Be brief
Keep messages brief--you want to retain an aura of mystery.
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Ask lots of general questions like, "If you could go anywhere, where would you go?"--people love to talk about themselves.
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Step 5
Avoid baring your soul
Avoid intense, soul-baring discussions that might scare people off.
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Step 6
Be observant
Be observant about the details in their profile, and ask follow-up questions to things they mention in messages to you. It shows you're sincerely interested--and not self-obsessed.
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Step 7
Give compliments
Dole out the compliments. Who doesn't want to hear nice things? If you saw them on a dating site, mention their impressive resume. If you met in person, gush about something they said or did. But be sincere.
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Use spell-check and re-read your message before pressing "send"--stupidity is a real turnoff!
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Step 8
Don't get discouraged
Don't get discouraged. You're not going to be compatible with everyone. Cut your losses and move on to the next hottie.
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Couples who meet on the dating site Match.com tend to date for a shorter period before getting married than couples who meet in more traditional ways.
