How To Find Out If He’s Ever Going To Marry You
- February 4, 2009
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Is your romance headed for the altar—or a dead end? Find out now.
You Will Need
- Honest reflection
- Good timing
- Calmness
- Self-control
- A deadline
- Self-improvement
Step 1: Evaluate the relationship
Before you ask him where the relationship is headed, think about how he treats you. Are you a priority in his life? Does he make compromises for you? The occasional sacrifice? If the answers are “no,” ask yourself a question: Do you really want to marry this guy?
Step 2: Consider length of courtship
Consider the length of your romance. If you’ve been dating for less than a year, consider putting off any talk of permanence until you’ve reached that milestone.
Step 3: Pick a good time
If you decide it’s appropriate to ask him about the future, pick a time when he’s happy and relaxed, and you have his undivided attention.
Sit next to him, not across from him. Research shows that men feel more comfortable in intimate conversation when they’re alongside their partner, rather than across from her.
Step 4: Don’t whine
Make the conversation about your readiness, not his uncertainty. Tell him, “I’m ready to take this to the next level, and I was wondering how you felt.” Think of it as a fact-finding mission, not a debate.
Whatever he says, don’t argue with him—at least not in this initial conversation.
Step 5: Set a time limit
Didn’t get the go-ahead to pick out china patterns? Thank him for his honesty, set the topic aside, and suggest revisiting it in a few months. Then, set a deadline for yourself—how long you’re willing to wait. Thinking about a timeline now will help you cope if things do end.
Avoid issuing an ultimatum. Even if he does what you want, he may resent feeling he’s being pushed into something.
Step 6: Work on yourself
While you’re giving Mr. Wonderful some more time to make up his mind, keep busy. Work on making your life richer, with or without him.
Step 7: Revisit the issue
When the deadline arises, raise the issue again. If he’s still undecided about your future, figure out whether you want to hang in there for a bit or cut your losses altogether. Good luck!
On average, men propose two years, eleven months, and eight days after the first date, according to a survey.
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Comments (4)
Very interesting. Loved the actress, she's adorable!
over 3 years ago by Evyn
I'm a dude... I can honestly say I can see my self getting married to the girl I'm with in a few years.
over 2 years ago by greyecho
wtf?
over 2 years ago by brittanypixie
esos consejos son muy tediosos asi como las personas que van a las iglesias para conseguir parejas,olvida eso en la vida dios te preparo tu mitad ella o el llegara de forma natural y sin saberlo como cuando se enciende un fuego solo en el campo .....
about 1 year ago by miguelgonzalez
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