How to Flirt
There isn't just an art to flirting—there's a science! Use these proven methods to charm and seduce.
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Learn how to flirt -- and how to know if he's into you -- with the advice in these Howcast videos.
You Will Need
- A positive attitude
- A healthy dose of self-confidence
Steps
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Step 1
Smile
Begin with a bright smile—one that comes from your eyes as well as your lips.
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Step 2
Say hello & ask question
Say hello and then ask a question that requires more than a "yes" or "no" answer. For example, "What do you think of the band?" or "Where are we, anyway?"
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Forget cheesy pick-up lines. According to one study, a simple "Hi" is the most successful opening line.
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Step 3
Keep conversation light
Keep the conversation light. The object is to banter, not get bogged down in a serious discussion.
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Step 4
Fiddle a little
Fiddle a little—with your hair, your jewelry, your clothing. People do this subconsciously when they are attracted to someone. Doing it intentionally excites the other person by subliminally telegraphing your interest.
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Step 5
Be funny
Put a fun spin on whatever you say. Everyone is attracted to a person with a good sense of humor.
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Don't break eye contact, unless the person is showing you something. Someone who can't take their eyes off you is very intriguing.
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Step 6
Lean in
Lean in as the person talks. It will make him or her feel fascinating—and find you fascinating in return.
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Not sure the person you're flirting with is interested? Look at his or her feet. If they're pointing in your direction, you're scoring!
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Step 7
Touch person lightly
Touch the person lightly on his arm or hand to create a little sexual tension. Just keep it above the belt!
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Step 8
Give hug or peck
When it's time to go, give a brief hug or a peck on the cheek to convey warmth and reinforce your interest. Happy hunting!
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According to one study, winking, smiling, and making eye contact are the three most successful flirting techniques.
