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You don't have to be a movie star to be irresistible. All it takes is a little psychology.

• Step 1: Choose a person

  Pick an object for your desire.

• Step 2: Hold eye contact

  Make and hold eye contact for three seconds. This makes people a tad uncomfortable, which causes the brain to release phenyl ethylamine, the brain chemical that’s produced when we’re either very afraid — or falling in love!

• Step 3: Smile & look away

  Once you’ve caught the person’s attention, smile and look away. After all, you don’t want to look like a lunatic.

• Step 4: Relax arms & open palms

  Relax your arms and open your palms. This sends the message, “I’m approachable.”

• Tip

  If you're nervous, take a deep breath, hold it for a couple of seconds, and let it out. This will help you relax by providing oxygen to your brain.

• Step 5: Lift head & straighten shoulders

  Lift your head and straighten your shoulders. Confidence is attractive to everyone.

• Step 6: Position body

  When a target arrives to chat, position your entire body in his or her direction, starting with your feet, to demonstrate your undivided attention.

• Step 7: Ask lots of questions

  Ask lots of questions. Research shows that when people are given a chance to talk about themselves, they rate the listener as extremely interesting!

• Tip

  Nod and smile in agreement while your target is talking. Not surprisingly, people like people who agree with them.

• Step 8: Mirror person's movements

  Casually begin mirroring the other person’s movements and positioning — people who like each other subconsciously align their movements, and you can create this harmony by doing it on purpose.

• Step 9: Lean forward

  Lean forward as the person talks, which creates intimacy.

• Step 10: Do something exhilarating

  Do something exhilarating on your first date—see a horror movie, go to a rock concert, or ride a roller coaster. The more adrenaline-pumping, the better, because those love-slash-fear chemicals will create an instant bond between you two.

• Fact

  The average person falls in love seven times before marrying.