How to Convince Your Lover to Let You Videotape Your Lovemaking
Sex tapes aren’t just for celebrities anymore! But first you need to talk your camera-shy lover into participating.
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You Will Need
- Timing
- Sensitivity
- A willingness to compromise
- Preparedness to be dumped
Steps
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Step 1
Pick a good time
Wait for a good time to bring up the subject—like when your lover is feeling good about their body.
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You can pave the way by complimenting their physical charms in the weeks leading up to The Talk.
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Step 2
Address their concerns
Respectfully listen to any reservations they have and address those concerns as best you can.
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The most common fear about a sex tape is that it will fall into the wrong hands, so promise them complete ownership.
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Step 3
Set ground rules
Offer to set ground rules that might make them feel more comfortable, like dimming the lights or obscuring their face.
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Step 4
Compromise
Explore a compromise, like only certain acts will be taped.
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Step 5
Negotiate
See if you can make a deal with them—you’ll fulfill one of their fantasies if they’ll do this.
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Don’t beg. It will make the idea of sex with you repulsive, never mind videotaped sex.
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Step 6
Stay hopeful
Stay hopeful and keep bringing it up. Don’t pester them, but in time they just might come to see things your way.
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The late actor Bob Crane’s obsession with filming himself having sex is explored in the 2002 biographical movie Auto Focus.
