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Think your stunning good looks are all the charm you need? Maybe, but having a plan of action doesn’t hurt.

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  Step 1: Approach the person

  Approach the person you want to pick up. Have good posture– your walk must convey confidence.

• Tip

  Read a newspaper before going out so you’ll have conversation topics ready, just in case.

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  Step 2: Introduce yourself

  Introduce yourself with a simple “Hi.” Research shows it’s the most effective opening line.

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  Step 3: Focus on other person

  Keep the conversation focused on the other person; people love to talk about themselves.

• Tip

  Use the other person’s name. As communications legend Dale Carnegie once said, “The sweetest sound in any language is a person’s name.”

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  Step 4: Keep things light

  Keep things light. Surveys show that people are drawn to a good sense of humor in a first encounter.

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  Step 5: Move on

  Gauge the person’s interest after a few minutes; if he or she keeps looking away or backing up, move on.

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  Step 6: Swap numbers

  Swap phone numbers. Of course, if you’re really hitting it off, you won’t need to.

• Fact

  Half of club-goers report having had a serious relationship with someone they met in a bar.