How To Officiate At Your Friend’s Wedding

  • May 6, 2009
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Your friends want you to marry them! Before you can officiate their big day, you’ll need to jump through some legal hoops.

You Will Need

  • A phone, or computer with internet access
  • A valid, government-issued ID
  • Cash, credit, or a money order

Check carefully with local officials. Some jurisdictions don’t recognize ministers who get ordained for the sole purpose of marrying a couple – meaning the marriage won’t be legal!

How To Officiate At Your Friend’s Wedding: Investigate your state's laws

Step 1: Investigate your state's laws

Marriage is a legally binding ceremony, and each state has different laws about who can conduct—or officiate—a wedding. Many of these laws are also in flux. Make sure you know what’s required.

How To Officiate At Your Friend’s Wedding: Understand the requirements

Step 2: Understand the requirements

Research the specifics. How far in advance do you need to get certified? Are there specific phrases you have to include in the ceremony? How should you deal with paperwork?

Find out where the happy couple is getting married, and contact the county clerk or courthouse closest to that location to double-check the rules and details.

How To Officiate At Your Friend’s Wedding: Get certified

Step 3: Get certified

A number of non-denominational organizations will certify you online to perform weddings, and some will even do it for free. The Universal Life Church is one of the most established of these ministries, but their ministers aren’t recognized everywhere.

How To Officiate At Your Friend’s Wedding: Get deputized

Step 4: Get deputized

If you’d rather not deal with a ministry, certain counties will let you apply to be a “Deputy Marriage Commissioner.” This distinction allows you to perform a one-time ceremony on a specific date. Check your county’s website to find out if you’re eligible.

How To Officiate At Your Friend’s Wedding: Practice your speech

Step 5: Practice your speech

Now that you’ve got the legal stuff out of the way, ask your pals what they have in mind for the big day. Make sure you spend some time thinking about – and practicing – your speech.

A ship’s captain must also have as secondary title – such as judge or justice of the peace – to be legally able to officiate a wedding.

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Comments (1)

HeatherM

Really like the ";couple"; at the end! Nice work with this script.

over 2 years ago by HeatherM

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