How to Deal with Friends Hating Your Significant Other

You simply adore your new amour! But your friends? Not so much. Find out what's really going on.

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You Will Need

  • Introspection
  • Understanding
  • Diplomacy

Steps

  1. Step 1

    Quiz your pals

    Ask your friends to tell you exactly what it is they don't like about your significant other. Make them give you specific examples of the behavior they don't like.

  2. Step 2

    Be honest

    Be honest with yourself. Are their feelings at all valid? Do they not like the person you're dating because he or she doesn't treat you well, or is reckless in some way?

  3. If every single one of your friends hates your beloved, face the fact that they probably see something you don't. After all, it's unlikely that everyone is wrong except you.

  4. Step 3

    Examine your own behavior

    Assuming there is no good reason why your friends hate your new love, examine your own behavior. Could your friends actually be annoyed with you for abandoning them, and your significant other is just taking the blame?

  5. Friends often begin to dislike a significant other because of all the bad things they hear about the person from you after a lover's quarrel. So if you're going to vent, be sure to mention good deeds, too.

  6. Step 4

    Force them together

    Plan an event where everyone can get to know each other better. Maybe your friends just need to see for themselves that your significant other is truly great.

  7. Step 5

    Reassure them

    Reassure your friends that they are no less important to you now that you are in love. Tell them you are happy, and ask them to try to be happy for you.

  8. Step 6

    Make time for them

    Make time for your friends. One reason friends aren't supportive when a member of the gang falls in love is because they fear losing their pal. Continue to make room for them in your life, and they just might come to accept who you're dating.

  9. According to one survey, teens identified their significant others as having the biggest impact on their self-images.

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