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Improve your relationship by learning how to be your own marital therapist; it's all in this Howcast video series. Advice includes how to handle your partner's infidelity; how to prevent emotional infidelity; how to heal your relationship after you or your partner has cheated; how to save a sexless marriage; how to argue with your partner productively; and much more.
You Will Need
- A heart-to-heart
Cut them some slack
If your spouse is trying to find another job, don't expect them to start doing all the housework. Looking for a job, especially in a bad economy, can be a full-time job in itself.
But don't be a sap, either
But don't cut them too much slack, either. If it becomes obvious your loved one is neither looking for a job nor pitching in with the kids or housework, it's time for a serious discussion.
Discuss one another's expectations, preferably before tempers flare. Come to a mutually acceptable agreement on what housework or child care, if any, the out-of-work partner will assume until they find another job.
Treat your partner like an adult
Don't subject them to a daily grilling on what they're doing to find work, or what they did all day while you were out. They are no doubt already feeling inadequate.
Be on the lookout
Be on the lookout for signs of depression, like sleeping too much or not being able to sleep, or over- or undereating. If your partner turns to alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling, or other destructive behaviors, insist they get counseling.
Keep up their spirits
Keep assuring them that you have complete faith in their ability to find another job. Most importantly, stay positive yourself.