Know the right thing to say – and do – if your loved one suddenly finds themselves out of work.
You will need
- A review of finances
Step 1 Be reassuring Tell your partner that you have their back. Losing a job is frightening; your reassurance that you are in this together will go a long way toward making them feel safer.
Stay away from cliches like, “this will probably turn out to be a blessing in disguise!”
Step 2 Allow them time to grieve Allow them a few days to wallow in self-pity without passing judgment. Like anyone else who has suffered a loss, someone who has lost their job needs time to grieve.
Encourage your partner to take a few days to regroup before plunging into a job search.
Step 3 Review your finances Review your finances together to figure out how you can get by on a reduced income for a while. This will help lower both your stress levels.
Step 4 Initiate Initiate intimacy. Your partner is no doubt feeling a loss of self-esteem; making them feel wanted, attractive, and loved will provide a big ego boost.
Step 5 Have some fun Find low-cost or free ways for the two of you to spend time together and have fun. It will help both of your moods from sinking.
Four out of five of the 2.4 million Americans who lost their jobs in 2008 were men.