How To Neutralize Mean Girls
- July 15, 2009
- 19,767 Views
Music (track 1, 3)
Todd Mazierski
Voice Over Artist
Tiffany Baker
Music (track 2)
Colin O'Dwyer
Writer
ToddSeda
Rumors, gossip, exclusion. Mean girls have a lot of weapons in their repertoire – here’s how to combat all that nastiness.
You Will Need
- Confidence
- Friends
- Courage
- Restraint
- Adult intervention
Step 1
No matter how intimidated you may feel on the inside, do your best to exude confidence on the outside. Standing up straight and maintaining eye contact will send the signal that you’re not a doormat. Mean girls single out targets they deem weak, but often stay away from confident girls.
Step 2
When possible, travel in a group of friends. Mean girls tend to shy away from packs, instead focusing their attention on solo prey.
In need of friends? Sign up for extracurricular activities, or get a job after school where you can meet teens your age outside of school.
Step 3
Be nice and stay nice. If you’re in a class or after-school activity with a mean girl, compliment what she’s wearing or nonchalantly offer help with a math problem. If you can get one mean girl on your good side, the rest may fall in line.
Ask a parent or older sibling for advice. Almost everyone has had at least one experience with bullies.
Step 4
Mean girls thrive on reactions, so if you’re not making any headway, go into “ignore mode” and pretend you’re immune to everything they say or do. This will probably only work a few times, though. If the mean girls are really determined, ignoring them is not a long-term solution.
Step 5
Confront mean girls using the divide-and-conquer approach. Calmly talk to an influential girl one-on-one, and ask her an up-front question like, “Did I do something that made you mad?” Use “I” statements rather than “you” ones. A mean girl can easily deny anything you say about her, but she’ll have a harder time arguing against your personal feelings.
Before your conversation, rehearse your replies, imagining how you’ll firmly, but politely, stand your ground and stay confident no matter what.
Step 6
If the mean girls are relentless, causing you to become depressed or anxious, or threatening to get physical, involve your parents and the school faculty. Though it may not seem like it, popular kids don’t actually run the school. Those who do run it can help put any mean girls in their place.
Tyra Banks, Victoria Beckham, and Rosario Dawson all say they were once the constant targets of mean girls.
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Comments (12)
thanks! i always pictured the mean girls as monster-human hybrids haha
over 2 years ago by bunnyheadstudios
I LOVE this animation! Especially when the mean girl turns into a monster!
over 2 years ago by MegT
Nice funny movie. Sometimes all the right methods fail you though. While you're trying to confront them, they'll just make fun of you for trying.
about 1 year ago by billyhi13
Super cute video -- would have been helpful when I was in school!
over 2 years ago by BCipolla
i love this site
over 2 years ago by Christopher_Sanborn
I also have a tip so its funnier say something with nonsense when she say something like
";you are ugly"; you say, "; i am swiming in a muffin!"; so you also laugh!
11 months ago by natamada
Unfortunately, those girls who were mean and stuck on themselves in school are just the same way when they are older. If they see some one to prey on , be mean to or just use they will do it . I got the part down as far as not responding but I still haven't mastered not letting people use me just so they like me. STunney
over 2 years ago by Sandytunney
sweet video
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nice design! i like the animation.
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