217237 1008 Parenting & Family Marriage Divorce true Tue, 22 Jan 2008 11:16:46 -0800 DIY, Instructional, tutorial, Do It Yourself, Tips, Essential Skills, Learn to, parenting, family, marriage, divorce, talk, talking, tell, telling, deal, dealing, handle, handling, children, kids, daughter, son, get, getting, divorced How To Tell Your Kids You’re Getting Divorced http://www.howcast.com/videos/217237-How-To-Tell-Your-Kids-Youre-Getting-Divorced http://www.howcast.com/videos/217237-How-To-Tell-Your-Kids-Youre-Getting-Divorced/edit approved 2 BScott http://img.howcast.com/images/icons/howto-xxlarge.png 877 82632 1 0 Step Be certain Make absolutely certain that you’re divorcing before telling the children about it.

]]> 82633 2 0 Step Pick the right time Tell the children on a day when you and your spouse can break the news together. And be sure to stick around to provide reassurance and answer questions.

]]> 82634 3 0 Tip Have the talk a few days before one parent moves out, so the kids have time to absorb the news.

]]> 82635 4 0 Step Say it’s not their fault Tell the kids that the divorce is not their fault. No doubt you’ve heard this advice before, but it’s something you can’t emphasize enough.

]]> 82636 5 0 Tip Speak from the heart, and avoid cliches like, “Daddy and I don’t love each other anymore, but we still love you.”

]]> 82637 6 0 Step Don’t assign blame Don’t assign blame. Even if one of you is moving out to be with someone else, avoid explicit, accusatory explanations – even if staying quiet requires drawing blood from your own tongue.

]]> 82638 7 0 Step Reassure them Reassure your children that they will continue to be loved and cared for. If possible, explain any custody details you’ve worked out so you immediately can put to rest their concerns about where they are going to live and whether or not they’ll have to change schools.

]]> 82639 8 0 Step Emphasize continued contact Assuming it’s true, emphasize that they will still see plenty of the parent who is not going to be their primary custodian. If you are sharing custody with your spouse, explain to your children how that arrangement will work. Assure them they will still see their grandparents and all their other relatives, too.

]]> 82640 9 0 Tip Encourage your children to ask questions, and answer them as honestly as possible.

]]> 82641 10 0 Step Don’t sugarcoat it Be reassuring, but don’t sugarcoat the news too much. Admit that this is going to be a sad time for everyone; just be sure to emphasize that everything is going to work out.

]]> 82642 11 0 Step Expect their anger Don’t be surprised if the children get angry and blame you for the divorce. It’s perfectly natural, but it will subside as long as you stay honest with your children and continue to communicate with them.

]]> 82643 12 0 Fact Approximately 5.6 million children whose parents are divorced live with their grandparents, according to the most recent US Census.

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