How to Spot a Player
Avoid getting ambushed by the ruthless player. Here's how to identify the traits of this predatory species.
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You Will Need
- Observational skills
- Immunity to empty flattery
- Healthy suspicion
Steps
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Step 1
Beware of the stare
Beware of a guy who stares at you for too long. It’s a sign of aggression and usually means you’re his next conquest.
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Step 2
Assess his style
Assess a guy’s style for clues. Super-grooming signals he’s probably more into himself than you.
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Step 3
Pay attention to body language
Pay attention to his body language. If he leans in close to you right away he is staking out his territory.
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A player will bore a hole in you with his eyes while talking, then look away when you respond - a good sign he’s not really listening.
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Step 4
Distrust immediate intimacy
Distrust the guy who showers you with compliments or falls for you too quickly. Players use charm and flattery as a way to move in quickly.
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Step 5
Look for an ever-present cell phone
Look for an ever-present cell phone in the hand of the player. If he guards his cell phone like a pit bull and doesn’t let you use it, he’s probably a player.
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The sophisticated player will acknowledge that he has many female "friends" who often call.
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Step 6
Be suspicious of unreliability
Be suspicious if the player always calls late, doesn’t show up, and constantly offers lame excuses. Look out for a guy who’s always busy.
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Step 7
Beware of jealousy
Beware of someone who’s extremely jealous and possessive, especially early in the relationship. If they don’t trust you, it usually means they can’t be trusted themselves.
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Did you know? Fifty-five percent of the impression we get from a person is formed through body language.
