How to Relax during Sex with Someone New
Getting naked with someone for the first time can be nerve-racking. Use these strategies to calm yourself.
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You Will Need
- A fitness program
- Grapefruit or spicy floral scent
- Sexual audacity
- A good sexual fantasy
- A Brazilian wax (optional)
Steps
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Step 1
Work out a few times a week. Research shows that regular exercise boosts sexual self-esteem – plus, it'll help firm up any problem areas.
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Step 2
Take advantage of aromatherapy. A grapefruit scent can fool people into thinking you're several years younger. If you want to look trimmer, a spicy floral scent can make people perceive you as up to 12 pounds thinner.
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Step 3
Disrobe with confidence, even if you're completely faking it. Studies show that sexual self-assurance is a huge turn-on to both sexes.
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Consider getting a Brazilian wax. Women who did reported feeling sexier and having better sex.
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Step 4
Stop worrying that your partner is fixated on your love handles and cellulite. Surveys show that we're all too anxious about our own body to take a close look at our partner's.
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Step 5
Go ahead and fantasize during the act. The biggest inhibitor to good sex with someone new is performance anxiety – if you can get your mind to let go, your body will have an easier time following suit.
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