How to Move In Together without Killing Each Other
You and your partner have decided to move in together. Here are some steps to prevent war from breaking out in your living room.
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You Will Need
- Communication skills
- A chore list
- Personal space
- Flexibility
Steps
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Step 1
Be sure
Make sure you're moving in together for the right reasons. Moving in to fix your relationship problems may make those problems worse.
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Step 2
Make it home
Make your new place feel like home. With a positive attitude and willingness to compromise, work with your partner to organize and decorate each room.
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Get rid of duplicate items, keeping the better of the two collections.
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Step 3
Define normal
Define what you consider normal behavior in a household. Find a happy medium with your partner, and respect their quirks and habits.
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Step 4
Divide chores
Divide chores and create a chore list. Make sure you both feel the list is divided equally.
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Specify when chores are to be completed. People have different expectations about how often the laundry should be done or the bathroom cleaned.
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Step 5
Assign responsibilities
Choose responsibilities ahead of time. Make clear what you expect from each other before you move.
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Step 6
Set aside time away from each other. By giving each other space, you’ll appreciate your time together even more.
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Step 7
Be flexible and listen to each other’s needs. Work together to make both parties happy, and moving in will be a lot easier.
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More than half of all first marriages in the U.S. are preceded by couples living together.
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Step 8
Be alone
Set aside time away from each other. By giving each other space, you'll appreciate your time together even more.
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Step 9
Be flexible
Be flexible and listen to each other's needs. Work together to make both parties happy, and moving in will be a lot easier.
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More than half of all first marriages in the U.S. are preceded by couples living together.
