How to Deal with a Needy Neighbor

Find that fine line between being firm and being rude to deal with your neighborly nuisance.


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Whether you're dealing with friends, family, a lover, or co-workers, you'll benefit from the communication skills taught in this Howcast video series. Among the advice included: how to tell someone off; how to deliver an ultimatum; how to complain; how to solve creative differences; how to give a compliment; how to take criticism; how to apologize; how to read social cues; how to learn to say no; and much more.


You Will Need

  • Boundaries
  • Energy
  • The ability to say no


  1. Step 1

    Pay attention to your gut feelings

    Take your gut feelings seriously, and pay attention to them. If your gut tells you to stay away from a needy neighbor, heed the advice.

  2. Step 2

    Establish boundaries

    Be clear about boundaries and what you will and will not tolerate. If a needy neighbor violates your boundaries, let them know as soon as possible.

  3. Step 3

    Stay energized and busy

    Stay energized. Negative people don't like being around people who maintain a positive outlook, and being too busy to talk will get them looking elsewhere to fulfill their needs.

  4. Limit conversations.

  5. Step 4

    Say no

    Explain to your needy neighbor when they call or drop by that you are busy and can’t visit with them. Be polite but firm before they suck you in.

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