24634 1297 Sex & Relationships Communication true Tue, 19 Aug 2008 06:01:51 -0700 /system/videos/1/34/46/02/24634.flv DIY, Instructional, tutorial, Do It Yourself, Tips, Essential Skills, Learn to, mind, body, mental How To Read People’s Minds http://www.howcast.com/videos/24634-How-To-Read-Peoples-Minds http://www.howcast.com/videos/24634-How-To-Read-Peoples-Minds/edit approved 202 640 360 <object width="425" height="273" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" id="howcastplayer"><param name="movie" value="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=24634"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=24634" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="425" height="273" allowFullScreen="true" allowScriptAccess="always" ></embed></object> 30 LonnyNewton http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/read_minds_hd_3_xxlarge_maintained_aspect.jpg 22207 false false false 43569 1 27 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/27.jpg Prime them Use your body language to make the person comfortable around you. Smile, tilt your head to one side when you’re listening to them, keep your arms unfolded, and point your torso and feet toward theirs.

]]> 43570 2 39 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/39.jpg Read their palms Gauge how relaxed they are by reading their palms. Are their hands tightly clenched? When you shake their hand, is it cold and clammy or hot and sweaty? All indicate unease.

]]> 43571 3 50 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/50.jpg Study their face Study their face, specifically the upper portion. A fake smile does not reach the eyes, so if the area around the eyes remains smooth and un-crinkled, the smiling person may really be feeling nervous or skeptical.

]]> 43572 4 64 Tip Of course too much Botox might throw off this test.

]]> 43573 5 69 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/69.jpg Go fishing Make a general statement that will help you fish for information—something vague that could apply to anyone at any time like, “You’re worried about something, aren’t you?” or, “You’re concerned about a relationship,” or “Something has been on your mind lately.”

]]> 43574 6 85 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/85.jpg Listen carefully Listen carefully to their response so you can tweak your tactics accordingly. If they get emotional, you know you’ve hit a nerve—keep digging! If not, switch to another subject.

]]> 43575 7 97 Tip Use a psychic trick known as the “Barnum reading,” named after P.T.’s philosophy of offering something for everyone. Describe the person in safe, even-handed terms like, “You can be quiet, but when you want to, you can become the life of the party.” Watch for physical flickers of recognition so you know what to zero in on.

]]> 43576 8 117 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/117.jpg Look for micro-expressions Look for micro-expressions—those blink-and-you-miss-them involuntary movements that betray a person’s real feelings. For example, the person who lies when he says he’s not worried about something will nod his head up and down almost imperceptibly during the denial.

]]> 43577 9 135 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/135.jpg Lead them on Ask the person about something that almost everyone has in common—like a box of old photos—then use the response to tease out more information.

]]> 43578 10 144 Tip Other items that a high percentage of people will identify with are “a scar on the knee,” “a meaningful piece of jewelry,” “a childhood incident involving water,” and “keys that you can no longer match to anything.”

]]> 43579 11 157 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/157.jpg Learn basic body language Learn basic body language. A person with his hands clasped behind his back or behind his head is confident; crossed arms indicate dislike or guardedness; a man with his thumbs hooked in his pants pocket is showing his sexual availability; ditto for a woman who plays with her hair and entwines her legs.

]]> 43580 12 177 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/24634/177.jpg Mirror them Mirror the person’s movements—if they are cupping their chin with their hand, you do the same—to establish intimacy. It not only will help you to read them better—it will make them more prone to open up to you.

]]> 43581 13 190 Fact Psychic debunker James Randi has a standing offer of $1 million to anyone who can prove the existence of psychic powers.

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