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Everything you need to know about engagements, bridal showers, and weddings, whether you're the bride, the groom, or a guest.
You Will Need
- The bride's likes and dislikes
- A theme
Don't get hung up on rules
Throw out any old-fashioned notions of what you "have" to do. Let the bride's personality dictate the theme. Does she have any hobbies? Special interests? A favorite indulgence?
Focus on food
If she or her future husband loves to cook, consider a recipe shower, where everyone brings a favorite recipe and a kitchen item that's helpful in preparing it. Ask several guests to make their dish and it becomes a potluck supper. Or hire a local chef to give guests a cooking lesson.
Lift her spirits
If pre-dinner cocktails are more her thing, have a "stock the bar" party, where everyone brings two bottles of liquor – one for the couple's liquor cabinet and one to use as you all learn to make classic cocktails. For the vino-loving bride, throw a wine-tasting party; guests bring one bottle for tasting, and one for the newlyweds' wine collection.
Soothe her frazzled nerves
Does the bride like to be pampered? Hold the shower at a local salon, where everyone can enjoy spa treatments. Or set up a private yoga class for the gang. Don't forget the champagne!
Have a slumber party
Consider a throwback slumber party. Make it grown up by holding it at a hotel, where you can all pile into adjoining suites, order room service, and laugh and talk the night away.
Sex it up
For the frisky bride, throw a lingerie party with a twist: Hire someone to teach pole dancing or striptease skills.
Do some good
For the community-minded bride, why not turn the shower into an opportunity to help others? Spend a day helping build a house or cleaning up a local park. Reward yourselves with a relaxing dinner afterwards.