How to Throw a Unique Bridal Shower

Organize a bridal bash that people will actually want to attend using these innovative ideas.


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Everything you need to know about engagements, bridal showers, and weddings, whether you're the bride, the groom, or a guest.

You Will Need

  • The bride's likes and dislikes
  • A theme


  1. Step 1

    Don't get hung up on rules

    Throw out any old-fashioned notions of what you "have" to do. Let the bride's personality dictate the theme. Does she have any hobbies? Special interests? A favorite indulgence?

  2. There's no law that says men can't be included. Ask the bride if she'd like a co-ed shower.

  3. Step 2

    Focus on food

    If she or her future husband loves to cook, consider a recipe shower, where everyone brings a favorite recipe and a kitchen item that's helpful in preparing it. Ask several guests to make their dish and it becomes a potluck supper. Or hire a local chef to give guests a cooking lesson.

  4. Step 3

    Lift her spirits

    If pre-dinner cocktails are more her thing, have a "stock the bar" party, where everyone brings two bottles of liquor – one for the couple's liquor cabinet and one to use as you all learn to make classic cocktails. For the vino-loving bride, throw a wine-tasting party; guests bring one bottle for tasting, and one for the newlyweds' wine collection.

  5. Step 4

    Soothe her frazzled nerves

    Does the bride like to be pampered? Hold the shower at a local salon, where everyone can enjoy spa treatments. Or set up a private yoga class for the gang. Don't forget the champagne!

  6. Step 5

    Have a slumber party

    Consider a throwback slumber party. Make it grown up by holding it at a hotel, where you can all pile into adjoining suites, order room service, and laugh and talk the night away.

  7. Step 6

    Sex it up

    For the frisky bride, throw a lingerie party with a twist: Hire someone to teach pole dancing or striptease skills.

  8. Step 7

    Do some good

    For the community-minded bride, why not turn the shower into an opportunity to help others? Spend a day helping build a house or cleaning up a local park. Reward yourselves with a relaxing dinner afterwards.

  9. Bridesmaids spend an average of $163 per person hosting the bridal shower, according to a 2007 survey.