269161 1299 Sex & Relationships Dating General Dating true Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:07:05 -0700 /system/videos/6/09/04/27/270409.flv getting,out,leaving,breaking,up,abusive,relationships,dating,marriage,husband,abused,beats,hits How To Get Out Of an Abusive Relationship http://www.howcast.com/videos/269161-How-To-Get-Out-Of-an-Abusive-Relationship http://www.howcast.com/videos/269161-How-To-Get-Out-Of-an-Abusive-Relationship/edit approved 149 640 360 <object width="425" height="273" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" id="howcastplayer"><param name="movie" value="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=269161"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=269161" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="425" height="273" allowFullScreen="true" allowScriptAccess="always" ></embed></object> 3 jlamont http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/abusive_relationship_hdstill01_xxlarge_maintained_aspect.jpg 1063 false false false 101426 0 26 Warning Statistics show women are most at risk of domestic violence when they attempt to leave their abusive spouse or boyfriend, so take all possible precautions.

]]> 101427 1 35 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/35.jpg Get help If the abuse is physical, call The Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They can provide both advice and assistance. Your local YWCA also has counselors who can help you.

]]> 101428 2 49 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/49.jpg Clear your browser history If you are using online resources to find help, clearing your browser history will make it harder for your abuser to track what you’re doing. Click Clear History in the Toolbar at the top of the screen.

]]> 101429 3 61 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/61.jpg Get counseling If the abuse is emotional, get counseling, either alone or with your partner.

]]> 101430 4 65 Tip Verbal abuse often escalates to physical violence.

]]> 101431 5 69 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/69.jpg Tell loved ones Tell trusted loved ones if you are being abused. Many women keep their situation a secret out of shame, and that puts them in greater danger.

]]> 101432 6 78 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/78.jpg Have a safety plan If you are living with your abuser, figure out a safe place to go. If you can’t stay with friends or relatives or afford your own housing, contact a women’s shelter.

]]> 101433 7 87 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/87.jpg Gather important documents Gather as many important documents as you can before you leave, like birth certificates, passports, social security cards, marriage license, leases, deeds, insurance policies, medical records, bank account information, and police or hospital reports of abuse. Pack any medication you’ll need.

]]> 101434 8 105 Tip Stockpile some cash if you can so you’ll have a way to pay for necessities that is not traceable.

]]> 101435 9 111 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/111.jpg Establish a code word Establish a code word with friends, family members, and coworkers so you can signal them if you’re in immediate danger.

]]> 101436 10 118 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/118.jpg Time your escape Plan to leave, either with family and friends escorting you out, or with enough time so that you’ll have time to get to your safe destination before your abuser knows you’re gone.

]]> 101437 11 128 Step http://img.howcast.com/system/thumbnails/269161/128.jpg Know the limits of a restraining order Get a restraining order, but know that approximately half of them are violated. So take other precautions as well, like avoiding being alone, varying your routine, and letting your employer know that your ex is not welcome.

]]> 101438 12 140 Fact Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they grow up.

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