How to Date Your Friend's Ex
Forbidden fruit is the most tempting, but it could cost you a friendship. Navigate this tricky situation with these helpful hints.
Up next in Dating Survival Guide (90 videos)
Improve your love life with the dating tips in these videos.
You Will Need
- An understanding friend
- Intuition
- Tact
Steps
-
Step 1
Think about it
Think about it. Is a potential relationship worth losing an established friendship? Keep in mind that if things don't go well, you could lose both.
-
Wait to start dating until the amount of time they've been broken up exceeds the amount of time they were together.
-
Step 2
Talk to your friend
Talk to your friend alone. Be open and honest about how you feel and prepare yourself for the possibility that they not only won't approve, but might end your friendship. At least for a little while.
-
Step 3
Make sure the relationship is over
In the event your pal gives the go-ahead, make sure the former lovebirds aren't still hung-up on each other. If either frequently brings up their old flame in conversation, has pictures of each other up, or regularly laments the failed relationship, reconsider your choice.
-
Steer clear if you think your friend's ex might be going out with you just to hurt your friend.
-
Step 4
Establish boundaries
As your new relationship progresses, establish boundaries with your friend. Although part of the fun of any new relationship is bragging about it, refrain from sharing information that could dredge up old memories or ignite any jealousy.
-
Step 5
Ease the tension
Ease tension by restricting PDA with your new love when you're around your friend. Tact and consideration will go a long way towards maintaining an old friendship while nurturing a new romance.
-
In a poll, over 50 percent of respondents said it was acceptable to date a friend's ex.
