How to Seduce a Woman

Don't rely on cheesy lines recommended by self-described pick-up artists. These tips have scientific research on their side.


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You Will Need

  • A declaration of love
  • A declaration of commitment
  • A secluded spot
  • Self deprecation
  • A physically strenuous or anxiety-producing activity
  • Eye contact


  1. Step 1

    Tell her you love her

    Tell her you love her. Researchers found this to be the most effective way to get a woman into bed. We'll leave the ethics to you.

  2. Step 2

    Say you're committed to her

    Can't bring yourself to say those three little words? Imply that you're committed to her, which runs a close second to, "I love you."

  3. Step 3

    Tell her you care for her

    Still stammering? Tell her you care about her very deeply. It's only slightly less effective than those first two lines.

  4. Step 4

    Go somewhere private

    Now that she's interested, take her to a secluded place. Privacy helps put women in the mood.

  5. Step 5

    Practice self-deprecation

    Be self-deprecating. One anthropologist found that many women are sexually attracted to men who appear modest in a funny, charming way.

  6. Step 6

    Get physical

    Plan a physically taxing activity for the two of you. Getting a woman's heart rate up primes her for sexual arousal. Or, do something slightly scary; anxiety works, too.

  7. Step 7

    Make eye contact

    Trying to seduce a stranger? Make eye contact and hold it. And we do mean eye contact: Women are turned on by a guy who looks deeply into their eyes, and turned off by one who looks their body up and down before stopping at their breasts.

  8. Don't wink when you make eye contact; many women think it's cheesy.

  9. Step 8

    Make it about her

    No matter who you're trying to seduce, or how long you've known her, remember this golden rule: It's all about her. If you can get her to talk about herself, and convince her that you are hanging on her every word, you're halfway home.

  10. Women who marry men less attractive than themselves are more likely to have happy marriages than brides with better-looking husbands, according to one study.