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Teach your children good values with the help of these Howcast videos.
You Will Need
- Ways to recast your requests
- A jar with money
- A calm demeanor
Rephrase negatives into positives
Instead of telling your child what not to do, tell them what they should do; this plants the correct action in their head. For example, saying, "Look both ways before you cross the street!" is more effective than saying, "Don't run into the street without looking!"
Limit their choices
When you want your child to do something they may not want to do, provide a few choices. Children – like adults – tend to be more cooperative if they feel they have some control. Plus, it removes the option of refusal because you haven't asked something that can be answered with "yes" or "no."
Use reverse psychology
Use reverse psychology by forbidding them to do something you want them to do.
Turn commands into challenges, as in, "I bet you can't eat all that broccoli."
Add a silly element
Add a silly element to a request, like, "Hey, why don't you hop around and whistle while you put away your toys?" They'll likely be so busy focusing on the nonsense part they'll forget to give you a hard time.
Break their bad habit
Break their bad habit. Put money in a jar, telling them you will remove a certain amount each time they engage in the offensive conduct. After four weeks – the amount of time psychologists say it takes to break a habit – they may keep whatever is in the jar. It gives them incentive to break the habit, and teaches them that actions have consequences.
Remain calm when your child acts up – especially if you usually get emotional. A cool demeanor can be more effective than yelling and screaming, which many children – especially teenagers – tend to tune out.