How to Dance at Your Wedding

Wow your guests – or just learn enough not to embarrass yourself – with these first dance tips.


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You Will Need

  • Song with a clear beat
  • Size and shape of dance floor
  • Dips, turns, or spins
  • Choreography
  • Practice
  • Dance instructor (optional)


  1. Step 1

    Pick your song

    Pick your wedding song. Choose something meaningful, but make sure it has a clear, steady beat and isn't too slow. Between two and three minutes is a good length. Your song selection will likely determine your dance style.

  2. The fox-trot is a relatively easy dance to learn and goes with many standards.

  3. Step 2

    Choose a style

    No special song? Look for inspiration based on the style of dance you want. Formal ballroom? Sassy Latin? Upbeat swing? A sexy tango? Then find a song to match.

  4. Step 3

    Take lessons

    Take a few lessons. Learning a simple routine takes about four sessions. Bring a recording of your song and wear the shoes you'll be wearing at the reception.

  5. If you're talented, consider choreographing your own routine.

  6. Step 4

    Know the dance floor size

    Take the size and shape of the dance floor into consideration. Make sure your routine is neither too sweeping nor too insular.

  7. Step 5

    Add some extras

    Learn one or two dips, turns, or spins so the photographer has something lively to capture.

  8. Step 6


    Whatever you decide to do, spend some time rehearsing it. When the big day comes, you'll be glad you did.

  9. "Amazed" by Lonestar was voted the most popular first dance wedding song in a 2009 U.K. poll.