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Spice up your love life -- and learn how to handle any sexual situation that may arise -- with the advice in these Howcast videos.
You Will Need
- Communication skills
Observe behavior outside the bedroom
Observe your partner's behavior outside of the bedroom. Deciding to work longer hours, drinking more, and weight gain are signs they're not happy with your erotic routine. Pressing their pelvis against yours when hugging and regular public displays of affection mean you're doing a-ok.
Notice how often your partner initiates sex
Notice how often your partner initiates sex. If they're raring to go at the drop of a hat, you're doing something right.
Pay attention to sex
Pay attention to what happens in the bedroom. If your partner is audibly having a good time and you're feeling confident, it's likely you've got nothing to worry about in bed.
Listen for repeated requests
Listen for repeated requests between the sheets. If they are constantly directing you during sex, it may indicate a lack of fulfillment or frustration with your technique.
Pay attention when they're giving
Pay attention when your partner becomes unusually proactive in pleasing you. It could be an attempt to get you to take more of an interest in pleasing them.
If you're still not sure about your skills, wait until you're no longer in the heat of the moment, take a deep breath, and ask. Put your partner at ease by focusing the conversation on increasing their satisfaction, not pointing out the flaws in your sex life. If you're not quite up to par, time to hit the bedroom and practice, practice, practice!