How to Tell Someone How You Feel

Whether you want to mend a relationship, end a relationship, or to tell someone how much you love them, express yourself and tell someone how you feel.


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Whether you're dealing with friends, family, a lover, or co-workers, you'll benefit from the communication skills taught in this Howcast video series. Among the advice included: how to tell someone off; how to deliver an ultimatum; how to complain; how to solve creative differences; how to give a compliment; how to take criticism; how to apologize; how to read social cues; how to learn to say no; and much more.


You Will Need

  • Organization
  • Time
  • Confidence
  • Honesty
  • Empathy


  1. Step 1

    Organize your thoughts

    Organize your thoughts in your head before telling someone how you feel.

  2. Step 2

    Make time

    Set aside time to meet with the person you want to talk to.

  3. Pick an environment without distractions.

  4. Step 3

    Be confident

    Be confident and go for it. Speak your mind and express issues that are important to you. Speak calmly, and stick to the points you want to get across. Don't distract from your message by veering off-topic.

  5. Step 4

    Be honest

    Keep eye contact with that person and be honest with how you're feeling.

  6. Step 5

    Be empathetic

    Be empathetic to the person you are talking to by giving them the chance to respond. Avoid interrupting them.

  7. Step 6

    Resolve issues

    Once you've spoken up, try to resolve any lingering issues on both sides, and feel good about expressing your feelings.

  8. During the Great Depression, Dale Carnegie wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People, which inspired readers and job-seekers to learn proper communication skills. Copies flew off shelves at 5,000 a day.