You Will Need
- Positive attitude
- Appointment at a clinic or with a gynecologist
Be straightforward and honest. Tell your partner you want to talk about sex and STDs.
View the discussion as a positive step in your relationship. Your willingness to talk about a difficult subject is a sign that you trust your partner and you want them to be able to trust you.
Mention that getting the results of an STD test will make sex less stressful for you and your partner, and will bring the two of you closer together.
Listen to your partner during the conversation -- don't do all the talking. Instead, let the conversation flow naturally.
Remind your partner of the responsibility both of you have to get tested if you plan on having children. Infections like syphilis and hepatitis B can be transmitted from the mother to the fetus.
Avoid jumping to conclusions
Avoid jumping to conclusions. Just because your partner refuses to get tested for STDs doesn't mean they are cheating or have an STD. But don't back down -- continue to explain how important it is to you to get tested.
Make an appointment
Make an appointment with a clinic or doctor to get tested.
Protect yourself by using condoms. Condoms protect against transferring STDs like HIV, chlamydia, syphilis, and gonorrhea. Now you can rest easy knowing both you and your partner have been tested.