How to ask Crucial Relationship Questions
Before you mentally start humming "The Wedding March," here's how to ask the right questions and ensure that your significant other has the potential to be Mr. or Ms. Right.
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You Will Need
- Wants and needs
- Communication
- Honesty
Steps
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Step 1
Consider the outcome
Consider the outcome. Ask your partner how they envision the relationship. Does it have long-term potential or is it just for fun? If one sees marriage while the other is thinking summer fling, someone's going to get hurt.
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Give honest answers. There's no point in lying and telling your partner what you think they want to hear as it will only breed resentment and ultimately destroy the relationship.
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Step 2
Tolerate the annoyances
Ask your significant other if they can tolerate and accept your weaknesses and determine if you can tolerate theirs. Do you thrive on creative clutter while your significant other is a neat freak? Honestly examine which character flaws are deal-breakers and which can be accepted.
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Do you want children? It may seem silly to break off a relationship in its early stages over potential children, but if you deeply desire children and your significant other is adamantly against having a family, it's a deal-breaker.
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Step 3
Examine financial attitudes
Examine your financial attitudes. Does your partner have a savings account or do they spend like there's no tomorrow? Finances are a major contributing factor in the demise of relationships, so make sure that the two of you are evenly financially matched.
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Step 4
Align ambitions
Align your ambitions. Where does your partner see themselves in 5 or 10 years? If you want to teach orphans in China and your significant other hopes to take the corporate world by storm, your dreams and aspirations won't mesh, and your relationship will erode.
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Step 5
Express your love
Express your love in a fashion that suits both of you. Are you an affectionate person while your partner despises PDA? Make sure you're compatible in your need for physical intimacy, not only in the frequency of your lovemaking but also with simple acts like hugging and holding hands. Ask your significant other how much affection is important to them.
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