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Sort out your love life with the relationship advice in these Howcast videos.
You Will Need
- Common goals
- Sex therapist (optional)
Talk and share
Set rules for discussion of common relationship problems, like meeting in a public place to talk to avert raised voices. Agree not to interrupt, or use absolute or accusatory phrases like "You always..." or "You never... ."
Slow down and make time to share dreams, memories, and experiences again. Demonstrate a willingness to solve problems by keeping eye contact and nodding while listening, instead of making faces or gestures.
Compromise and sacrifice
Communicate your sexual needs and encourage your partner to share theirs to feel more involved, respected, and satisfied. Give respect to get respect.
Address money problems
Address conflicts over money by agreeing on a budget. Be honest with each other -- don't hide purchases or debts. Plan well in advance for your kids' education and your retirement.
Accept the differences in the way both of you were raised and learn to compromise. Show respect and let your partner know they matter. Don't pick at old wounds.
Divide chores fairly
Divide up housework and chores fairly so roles are defined and don't have to become a point of contention.
Follow through on all commitments and prove you're trustworthy. With compromise, communication, and honesty you'll be able to work through many relationship hurdles and enjoy a long life together.