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Maintain a strict schedule. Avoid enabling the workaholic's erratic behavior. Don't adjust meal times and don't keep the kids up late to see the parent -- break the cycle.
Sacrifice but speak
Understand their pressures, but insist that they be sensitive to how this affects everyone else. You're not a saint, so speak up.
Keep a journal of your feelings to air it out, and comfort yourself by tracking events and analyzing your situation. This is tough and for now you may be your best and only friend.
Accept for a while
Accept their workload as part of a short-term plan. Seventy-hour work weeks might make short-term sense, as long as both partners agree to a plan to cut back soon.
Be good to yourself
Create your own place of happiness and be good to yourself. Maintain sanity, not as a matter of selfishness, but for survival.
Frame requests positively
Frame requests for time and attention respectfully and in positive terms. Crabbing at the partner or fighting will only drive them away and encourage them to claim that no one understands.
Schedule free time for the two of you as a necessary ritual. Take bike rides and walks together, or go on date nights to establish timeouts for intimacy. Make your partner put it in the planner as any business client might expect them to do.
Find a twelve-step program that deals with your particular problem. Whether or not you can convince a partner to go, sit in on a few sessions to get insight and support during the crisis.
Go to couples or marriage therapy if necessary to discuss and get to the root of the problem. This is a partnership and you both need to be on the same page -- your relationship is worth it.