How to Have Make-Up Sex

Some couples have such a good time kissing and making up that they don't mind fighting. Here's how to make sure your reconciliations are as passionate as your feuds.


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You Will Need

  • Apology
  • Passion
  • Enthusiasm


  1. Step 1

    Keep away from money

    Try not to fight about money, and don't let an argument about something else evolve into a battle over finances. In a survey, couples reported that money spats rarely led to make-up sex.

  2. Step 2

    Woo her

    Guys, if you want make-up sex, you're probably going to have to be the one to extend the olive branch. According to research, men are instinctively drawn to kissing and making up. So don't just apologize: start wooing her!

  3. Step 3

    Put the fight aside

    Don't worry if you haven't totally resolved the problem that made you mad in the first place; it can wait. Part of the reason make-up sex feels so good is because the adrenaline rush you experience during a fight gets transferred

  4. Resolving a disagreement is easier after sex thanks to the body being flooded with oxytocin, the so-called "cuddling" hormone.

  5. Step 4

    Don't be passive-aggressive

    Participate fully and enthusiastically in the make-up sex--or don't participate at all. Passive-aggressiveness will only complicate matters.

  6. Make your spat part of the make-up sex by incorporating a little good-natured bondage and discipline.

  7. Step 5

    Don't ignore big problems

    Don't use sex to avoid fixing serious problems in your relationship. Make-up sex is great, but it can only take a couple so far.

  8. Chimpanzees kiss and make up after fights, and bonobo apes have make-up sex.