How to Talk Her into Having Sex with You

Knowing what to say to a potential sex partner can mean the difference between taking her to bed -- or taking a cold shower.


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You Will Need

  • Compliments
  • Altruism
  • Loving children anecdotes
  • Self-deprecating sense of humor
  • Expensive car
  • Listening abilities


  1. Don't persist with your blabber if a woman sends clear signals that she's not interested. Nothing's a bigger turnoff than desperation.

  2. Step 1

    Make her feel attractive

    Make her feel physically attractive. When it comes to having sex with someone new, women often let self-doubt about how they look naked get in the way. Make her feel confident about her body and she'll be more likely to want to get close to you.

  3. Complimenting something specific about her body sounds more sincere than a generic, "you've got a great body."

  4. Step 2

    Talk about your selflessness

    Casually mention something noble you do. Studies show that women are attracted to altruistic men, making it a good topic if you want to talk her into bed.

  5. Step 3

    Talk about children

    If you have nieces, nephews, or godchildren, talk about them lovingly. The "awww" factor might make her more open to being seduced.

  6. Step 4

    Make her laugh

    Don't be too serious. Women are attracted to men who can make them laugh -- especially if the jokes are self-deprecating.

  7. Step 5

    Mention your Lamborghini

    If you drive an expensive car, say so. If you have a cheap set of wheels, keep it to yourself. Research shows that a guy with a cool ride gets a woman's motor running faster than the same guy in an unimpressive auto.

  8. Step 6

    Know when to shut up

    Don't do all the talking. Part of the art of talking her into bed is knowing when to shut up and listen.

  9. According to one study, 80 percent of men expressed positive feelings about one-night stands, compared with 54 percent of women.