How to Be Romantic without Being Cheesy

There's a fine line between being a hopeless romantic and just being hopeless. These tips will help keep you on this side of cheesy.


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You Will Need

  • Insight
  • Cliché avoidance
  • Writing skills
  • Act of kindness


  1. Step 1

    Know your audience

    Know your partner’s tastes, especially when it comes to public displays of affection. What's hopelessly romantic to one person is mortifyingly cheesy to another.

  2. Step 2

    Avoid cliches

    Avoid cliches. If your romantic gesture is a staple of bodice-ripping novels and bad rom-coms, it's probably more cheesy than romantic.

  3. Step 3

    Don't write a song

    Unless you're a professional singer/songwriter, don't write your love a song. Insipid lyrics, out-of-tune singing, one-note guitar strumming -- they haven't got time for the cheese.

  4. Step 4

    Put your love in words

    Do try your hand at writing your sweetie a love letter -- on real paper. To make it romantic without being cheesy, keep it simple and straightforward. Don't compare their lips to rubies or their eyes to diamonds; just tell them honestly why you love them.

  5. If you write them a love poem, make sure it doesn't rhyme.

  6. Step 5

    Treat them like a grown-up

    When it comes to gifts, treat your lover like a grown-up. If the present is something a 5-year-old would enjoy, it's cheesy, not romantic.

  7. Step 6

    Do something nice

    Do something nice for them that makes their day a little brighter or their life a little easier. Sometimes, just being kind is the most romantic gesture of all.

  8. Honolulu was voted the most romantic city in the United States, and Dallas/Forth Worth was voted the least romantic.