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Romantic relationship ending? Make your breakup a little easier with the advice in this Howcast video series.
You Will Need
- Personal questions
Discuss the issue
Discuss with your ex if things were left up in the air about what went wrong. Pay attention to using good communication. If the conversation goes poorly, old wounds won't heal, and you should move on.
Examine whether the impulse to reconsider comes from your discomfort with being alone. Realize that it's better to be alone and feel content than it is to be with someone and feel miserable.
Save the trouble
Save yourself the grief if the desire to get back with the ex is borne of jealousy. You'll need your strength to move on, and jealousy is not a good use of your energy.
Go on a few dates with other people to gain perspective. If you're meant to get back together with your ex, you should be able to survive a period of seeing other people while you sort out your feelings.
Figure out if you were trying to fix them. Did you try to help them solve problems that, in retrospect, they hadn't shown much interest in addressing? Realize that only your ex can choose to change their own life.
Ask yourself if you like the person you are when you're around your ex. Do they bring out your best qualities? Do they appreciate you for who you really are? If the answer is no, it's probably not worth trying to get your ex back.