How to Kiss

Whether you’ve never been kissed or have been kissing for ages, it never hurts to brush up on the basics and learn a few new tips. Consider this the definitive guide on how to kiss.


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You Will Need

  • Fresh breath
  • Partner


  1. Step 1

    Freshen your breath

    Freshen your breath. If brushing your teeth isn’t possible and mouthwash and gum aren’t handy, take a few swigs of water to help rinse away odor-causing bacteria and food particles. Run your tongue over your lips to moisten them.

  2. Step 2

    Tilt your head

    Tilt your head to the right as you come in for the kiss. Two-thirds of humans do, even if they’re left-handed, so this reduces the odds of bumping noses. Close your eyes just before your lips touch.

  3. Relax your lips so they’re slightly parted. No one wants to feel like they’re kissing a brick wall.

  4. Step 3

    Let passion be your guide

    After your lips meet, let passion be your guide for how to kiss: If your partner seems tentative, keep your tongue to yourself and just peck and nibble at their lips; you can always progress to French kissing later. Remember to breathe through your nose.

  5. Studies show that men are fonder of very wet kisses and tongue contact than women, who often complain that guys use too much tongue.

  6. Step 4

    Do something with your hands

    Learning how to kiss involves hands too: Put them around your partner’s waist or neck; run your fingers through their hair; or -- to be really romantic -- cup their face in your hands.

  7. Step 5


    As you gain kissing confidence, experiment with different techniques, like sucking and gentle biting, and vary the pressure and tempo. Notice what your partner is doing so you can learn from them.

  8. Step 6

    Let them come up for air

    Let your partner come up for air every once in a while. Because when it comes to being a good kisser, knowing when to take a break is as important as knowing how to kiss.

  9. Men’s saliva has trace amounts of testosterone.