How to Make Friends with a Bartender

Turn your favorite bar into a home away from home.

You will need

  • Neighborhood watering hole
  • Bartender
  • Good attitude
  • Good joke or bit of trivia (optional)

Step 1 Smile & wait patiently Approach the bar, smile, and—most importantly—wait patiently for the bartender to approach.

Step 2 Be polite Be polite. The bartender is a server, not a servant.

Step 3 Make conversation If he isn’t busy, make some conversation. Avoid lengthy philosophical treatises in favor of a funny story from your workday or a recap of a great book you just read.

Step 4 Be upbeat Be upbeat. Contrary to popular belief, pouring out your troubles to the person pouring your pint is not always appropriate.

Step 5 Don't be a pest If the bartender is busy, don’t be a pest or chatter incessantly while he or she is trying to turn out drinks. Keep in mind that the server is at work.

Step 6 Tip generously The quickest way into a bartender’s good graces is a generous tip!

Step 7 Invite him out To seal the deal, ask him or her to join you and your friends for a nightcap…at another bar, of course.