How to Be Good in Bed
When it comes to sex, there's always room for improvement. Get really good in bed with these tips.
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You Will Need
- Sensitivity
- Adventurousness
- Variety
- Erogenous zones
- Empathy
- Confidence
Steps
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Step 1
Masturbate
Masturbate regularly. If you're a man, it will help you delay ejaculation during intercourse; if you're a woman, it will teach you the kind of stimulation you need to climax more easily.
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Step 2
Go with your gut
Don't ask for feedback, pointers, or affirmation during sex -- they're instant mood killers. Go with your gut and then either proceed or switch gears based on your partner's reactions.
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Step 3
Be adventurous
Be adventurous. In a poll about what makes someone good in bed, people cited "willingness to experiment" as one of the main factors.
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Vary your sexual positions: Using the same position could end long-term relationships, according to one sexologist.
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Step 4
Stroke your partner
Stroke or lick your partner's inner thighs, the small of their back, and the area just below their belly button. Sex therapists say these areas are particularly sensitive to sensual stimulation.
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To make the experience even more intense for them, ask your partner to close their eyes.
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Step 5
Have more empathy
Work on your ability to see things from your partner's perspective. Men and women who are highly empathetic are better lovers, according to research.
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Step 6
Stop worrying
Stop worrying about being good in bed. Being preoccupied with how you rate as a lover is almost guaranteed to make you a bad one.
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Men with excess body fat last longer in bed than skinny men, according to research.
