High School Dating Advice: How to Handle Being Pressured for Sex

Learn how to handle being pressured for sex in this high school dating advice video. Expert: Shallon Lester

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Hey guys. My name is Shallon and I'm here to help you with all the questions you might have about love, lust, romance, and everything in between. For more, visit me on twitter @downtownshallon or be sure to check out my website shallononline.com. ladies you might not believe this cus i wear a lot of makeup and dress kind of tarty but i was a virgin until i was almost 21. so i have a lot of experience in dealing with guys that just want to seal the deal. a keen way to avoid getting pressured for sex is to not get naked in the first place. its A Lot easier to say no when your clothes are still on, when your rolling around half naked in the bed. trust me. also, dont be afraid to bring it up earlier in the evening. you dont have to be very direct and make this huge declaration, but sort of alude to the fact that like you dont hook up you dont go all the way. and if a guy is still pushing you for it... he's kind of a jerk. but, if the clothes are off and the statement hasn't been made and your rolling around in the bed together, divert and distract. guys of course want to hit a home run, but usually most dudes will be satisfied with..rounding other bases. dont be afraid to set limits and make him stick to it. a guy who respects your limits, respects you.

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  • Shallon Lester

    Dubbed "Carrie Bradshaw 2.0" by Cosmo magazine, Shallon Lester is a two-time published author, dating expert and reality star. In 2008 she co-authored "Hot Mess: Summer in the City" with Julie Kraut,and currently writes for Glamour magazine and "Gossip Girl." Her new novel, "Exes and Ohs: A Downtown Girl's (Mostly Awkward) Tales of Love, Revenge and a Little Facebook Stalking" details her life as a single girl in Manhattan, a la Chelsea Handler but, as her publisher puts it, "Better written, and fueled by Veuve Cliquot instead of Grey Goose." She lives in New York and Newport Beach, CA. She is fluent in French, Italian and sexting.