High School Dating Advice: How to Turn a Friend into Your Boyfriend

Learn how to turn a friend into your boyfriend in this high school dating advice video. Expert: Shallon Lester

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Hey guys. My name is Shallon and I'm here to help you with all the questions you might have about love, lust, romance, and everything in between. For more, visit me on twitter @downtownshallon or be sure to check out my website shallononline.com. Ah ladies! Is there any worse place in the dating landscape than the barren, hideous purgatory that is the friend zone? No. There's not. If you have a big crush on one of your guy friends I'll tell you how to get out of the friend-zone and into the girlfriend zone. Number 1- Don't talk to him about other girls. I know this is so hard because in your mind you are thinking if I give him really bad advice about his girlfriend they'll break up and he'll be mine but it really doesn't work that way. He'll just start to see you as a therapist and not a girlfriend and nobody wants to date their therapist. Also, look like a girl. You don't have to completely destroy your style but adding a few girly touches such as brighter colors, perfume, make-up, nice hair. This will all help him see you as more than just one of the dudes. Men are hard wired to see women as potential mates so help him with this. He wants to see you as a woman, he wants to. Just lead him down that path. Also, don't be too available. Thats a classic mistake keeping you in the friend-zone. You're hot and you're in demand, you're on the scene and have a lot of cool stuff to do! I mean thats what he should think anyway. He does not need to know that you've been at home for four hours watching Glee on Hulu. He does not need to know this. You can be a little bit more mysterious. So if he asks you what did you do today. Oh you know I had a bunch of things and like the events whatever it was no big deal, red carpet paparazzi. Let him think that you are very in demand. Another big mistake girls make when they are trying to get out of the friend-zone is inventing a guy or maybe not inventing a guy to try to make him jealous. This only works half the time. It's a big gamble. So if you start talking to him about other guys this might make him jealous and all of a sudden he'll start to see the romantic potential that you two have or he could start to feel like your therapist which doesn't work either. So remember, don't be his therapist, add a few feminine touches, be busy and be confident. You'll get out of that friend-zone like that!

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  • Shallon Lester

    Dubbed "Carrie Bradshaw 2.0" by Cosmo magazine, Shallon Lester is a two-time published author, dating expert and reality star. In 2008 she co-authored "Hot Mess: Summer in the City" with Julie Kraut,and currently writes for Glamour magazine and "Gossip Girl." Her new novel, "Exes and Ohs: A Downtown Girl's (Mostly Awkward) Tales of Love, Revenge and a Little Facebook Stalking" details her life as a single girl in Manhattan, a la Chelsea Handler but, as her publisher puts it, "Better written, and fueled by Veuve Cliquot instead of Grey Goose." She lives in New York and Newport Beach, CA. She is fluent in French, Italian and sexting.