High School Dating Advice: How to Read a Boy's Body Language

Learn how to read a boy's body language in this high school dating advice video. Expert: Shallon Lester

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Hi guys my name is Shallon and I'm here to help you with all the questions you might have about love, lust and romance and everything in between. For more, visit me on twitter at downtownShallon or be sure to check out my website Shallononline.com. Girls I know that sometimes boys seem kind of mysterious. They don't really say what they mean. They don't communicate very well. But if you know what to look for you can read a boy like a book without him ever having to open his mouth. Here's a few tips when it comes to boys body language. There are a few good signs you definitely want to look for that shows a guy is in to you. Number 1, he's looking at you in the eye. Seems obvious right? Although you might want to cut a guy some slack if he's not directly making sustained eye contact, it could be he's just nervous. Another good sign is if he's mirroring your body language. If you put your hand on your head and he does the same thing this is a good sign. People who are truly in sync often match up their body language and when people are really connected they will match up their breathing. Interesting right? Another good sign is he's got his hands in his back pocket. A lot of guys get fidgety when it comes to their hands so cut them some slack on this one too. If his hands are in his back pocket then he's opening up his chest like a man, like a tarzan man, and pointing it towards you the chick he likes. Also, in the same vein, you want his knees to be facing towards you. Basically his whole body should be turned to face towards you. A lot of guys sit with their legs splayed wide open, I mean come on ladies I think we all know what that means, so even though it's not the most well mannered thing a man can do, it is a good sign when it comes to flirting. Some sign not so good. If a guy is rubbing the back of his neck, going like that, that means he's feeling pressure. He probably does not like the conversation your having he kind of wants to get out of it. If your confronting a guy about something, maybe your asking him if he's cheating and he touches his face when he's answering, that's also a bad sign. That means he's lying. Like he's unconsciously trying to stop the words from coming out of his mouth. Bad. And just like I said before if a guys posture is mostly turned away from you that's not great either. I see so many girls out on dates who are turned like this to their date and just hanging on them and the guy literally has his arms crossed and is facing away. Not a good sign. So with a little practice you will be able to pick up on these things quicker and quicker and get a very good idea of where your romance is heading.

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  • Shallon Lester

    Dubbed "Carrie Bradshaw 2.0" by Cosmo magazine, Shallon Lester is a two-time published author, dating expert and reality star. In 2008 she co-authored "Hot Mess: Summer in the City" with Julie Kraut,and currently writes for Glamour magazine and "Gossip Girl." Her new novel, "Exes and Ohs: A Downtown Girl's (Mostly Awkward) Tales of Love, Revenge and a Little Facebook Stalking" details her life as a single girl in Manhattan, a la Chelsea Handler but, as her publisher puts it, "Better written, and fueled by Veuve Cliquot instead of Grey Goose." She lives in New York and Newport Beach, CA. She is fluent in French, Italian and sexting.