Up next in How to be Successful at Online Dating (7 videos)
Everyone's doing it, but not everyone is getting lucky. Learn how to ace internet dating with the advice in these Howcast videos.
You Will Need
- Critical eye
- Honest friend
Don't use the wrong picture
Take a look at your profile picture. If you're a woman and you don't look a little flirtatious, you're limiting the guys who'll want to contact you. If you're a guy and you're all dressed up, you'll get fewer responses than a man in more casual attire. Also evaluate your photos' boring factor -- intriguing pictures get a lot of hits, even if the person's face is obscured. And whatever you do, don't use a picture taken with a flash; it adds 7 years to your looks!
Don't be too truthful
Check whether your profile is too truthful. If you're a man under 6 feet tall and you're not exaggerating your height by 2 inches, you're putting yourself at a disadvantage, because the majority of male online daters pump up their stature. They're also inflating their salary by 20 percent. As for women, you'd do well to shave an inch or two off your height if you're over 5 feet 4 inches -- average-height and shorter women get more responses than tall ones
Give your profile the negativity test. Are you listing more traits you're not looking for than ones you like? Too many deal-breakers makes you seem judgmental, narrow-minded, and bitter. Instead, strike an upbeat tone and focus on what you do like -- in life and in a potential mate.
Don't send a one-size-fits-all message
Review the messages you've sent. If you're dashing off the same generic introduction to everyone who catches your eye, you're much less likely to get a response than if you tailor your note to each person you want to date. Also, long-winded messages tend to get fewer responses than brief ones.
Don't use text speak
Consider the way you write your messages. People who use a lot of text message shortcuts get fewer responses than online daters who use normal spelling. Exceptions to this rule are "haha" and "lol" which potential dates do like, possibly because they suggest a sense of humor.
Don't try too hard
Have a trusted friend read both your profile and some of the messages you've sent that garnered no replies; a close pal will tell you if you're coming off as desperate or weird. Now get back online and knock 'em dead!