How to Deal with Unwanted Sexual Advances during Puberty

Learn how to deal with unwanted sexual advances during puberty from Jennifer Wider, M.D. in this Howcast video.

Puberty is a time of change. Things are going on with your body that are changing rapidly and things are going on with your emotions, and things feel sometimes a little bit out of control.

Sometimes during puberty you can get into situations that may make you feel uncomfortable. And this is when you need to act. It’s very, very important for you to realize that you are in charge of your body and in charge of your decisions. No one can make you do something you do not feel comfortable doing and no one can dictate to you the way you want to use your body. This is extremely important.

So remember, if you’ve just met somebody you want to plan ahead. Never go back to a room with someone that you don’t know. Never go to an empty house with someone you’d know. Never go to an empty park. Make sure you know what the plans are and plan ahead. Make sure you communicate your desires and your feelings ahead of time.

This is really, really important. If you get into a situation that you’re uncomfortable with, speak up immediately and act fast. I tell a lot of women that are going to college, a buddy system can save your life and it can work when you’re younger or older, too. When you go out or if you are in a group of people, grab a buddy. It can be a friend, it can be a sister, it can be a sorority sister. No matter what age you are, grab somebody that you know and trust. Have them watch your back and you’ll watch their back. It is so important and it can save your life.

What I want to remind you is that girls are often socialized to be polite and not to hurt people’s feelings. If you’re in an uncomfortable situation, throw all of that out the window. Don’t worry about being polite and never worry about hurting somebody’s feelings if you are uncomfortable. Speak up and act fast. You are in charge of your own body. It is your own domain and don’t ever do something you feel uncomfortable doing.