Can Porn Be Good for You?

Learn if porn can be good for you from sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in this Howcast video about the psychology of sex and pornography.

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I personally don't think that globally porn is a bad thing. In fact, I think it has absolutely a healthy place in a balanced sexual life. For many people porn is something that they enjoy as part of their erotic life for masturbation. And for others it is something that they actually enjoy sharing with their partner because it can create a sense of novelty or those images can be arousing and ultimately help heighten or add to a partnered sexual experience. I certainly know that this is not true for everyone but the part that I really want you to get is that globally porn isn't bad. It's how people use porn. Because when you go to it time and again because it's something that predictably helps you to get aroused and helps you feel the pleasure in your body and it's part of what brings you to your orgasm then I think it's part of a natural healthy response. When however it's something that gets obsessional or you find that you are spending more and more time on the computer that perhaps untilmately it's leading to isolation and spending time alone or having difficulties getting aroused by your partner. There ultimately is a tipping point where use of porn is not in your service and isn't getting you what you want or need. So, I think you just have to take a step back and look for yourself, how does porn fit into your life, and whether or not for you personally it feels like it is a healthy balance.

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  • Dr. Megan Fleming, Ph.D

    Dr. Megan Fleming is passionate about the role that sex plays in leading your best life. She skillfully guides her clients to achieve the life, relationships and sex that they want by helping them know, name and transcend what’s getting in their way. Dr. Fleming is a clinical psychologist and certified sex and relationship therapist. For the past 15 years, she has had a thriving practice in NYC. The founder of the Sexual Health and Rehabilitation Program (SHARP) at Beth Israel Medical Center, she currently is a Clinical Instructor of Psychology in Psychiatry for New York Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical College. Widely regarded as a sex and relationship expert, she is frequently seen and quoted in the media.