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Why are so many women into 50 Shades of Grey? Is your partner a porn addict? Is masturbation good or bad for a relationship? Is your penis normal? What happens in sex therapy? Certified sex and relationship therapist Dr. Megan Fleming answers those questions and many more in these videos about the psychology of sex.
I personally don't think that globally porn is a bad thing. In fact, I think it has absolutely a healthy place in a balanced sexual life. For many people porn is something that they enjoy as part of their erotic life for masturbation. And for others it is something that they actually enjoy sharing with their partner because it can create a sense of novelty or those images can be arousing and ultimately help heighten or add to a partnered sexual experience. I certainly know that this is not true for everyone but the part that I really want you to get is that globally porn isn't bad. It's how people use porn. Because when you go to it time and again because it's something that predictably helps you to get aroused and helps you feel the pleasure in your body and it's part of what brings you to your orgasm then I think it's part of a natural healthy response. When however it's something that gets obsessional or you find that you are spending more and more time on the computer that perhaps untilmately it's leading to isolation and spending time alone or having difficulties getting aroused by your partner. There ultimately is a tipping point where use of porn is not in your service and isn't getting you what you want or need. So, I think you just have to take a step back and look for yourself, how does porn fit into your life, and whether or not for you personally it feels like it is a healthy balance.