Masturbation Techniques & Health Benefits

Learn how people masturbate and the health benefits of masturbation from sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in this Howcast video about sex psychology.

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So the first thing I wanna say is that, people masturbate for many different reasons; and yet there are a few common ones. So if you weren't already aware, it's not only just for sexual pleasure and the release of orgasm; but often it's the tension relief that someone experiences physiologically from orgasm. It's a great way to regulate mood for someone who's feeling a little bit more depressed or is feeling anxious and it's also in that regard helpful for people who are trying to get to sleep at night. The other common reason is for boredom. So the thing I want you to realize is that you may choose to masturbate for many different reasons and you may also choose to have many different styles of masturbation. But if you are like many, you may still be using what you figured out probably early in your puberty. And so by that I mean, most people are using their hand, but you don't just want you to make that assumption. I work with both men and women who sometimes enjoy just like, rubbing up against a mattress or pillows. They may be used to using a vibrator. That may be above or below the underwear. You never really know what's someone's stlye or preference is untill you ask. But I also want to appreciate that it's a private experience. The only thing I'd have you consider is whether or not your masturbation style may in any way have a negative impact on a partnered experience. Because as I mentioned before, if you are rubbing up against something, like a mattress, that kind of friction is something typically, it's very difficult for a partner to duplicate. So if that's the case, and you ever notice a masturbation style interferes with a partnered experience, go back to the basics and try and explore other ways to bring yourself to orgasm.

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  • Dr. Megan Fleming, Ph.D

    Dr. Megan Fleming is passionate about the role that sex plays in leading your best life. She skillfully guides her clients to achieve the life, relationships and sex that they want by helping them know, name and transcend what’s getting in their way. Dr. Fleming is a clinical psychologist and certified sex and relationship therapist. For the past 15 years, she has had a thriving practice in NYC. The founder of the Sexual Health and Rehabilitation Program (SHARP) at Beth Israel Medical Center, she currently is a Clinical Instructor of Psychology in Psychiatry for New York Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical College. Widely regarded as a sex and relationship expert, she is frequently seen and quoted in the media.