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Why are so many women into 50 Shades of Grey? Is your partner a porn addict? Is masturbation good or bad for a relationship? Is your penis normal? What happens in sex therapy? Certified sex and relationship therapist Dr. Megan Fleming answers those questions and many more in these videos about the psychology of sex.
So the first thing I wanna say is that, people masturbate for many different reasons; and yet there are a few common ones. So if you weren't already aware, it's not only just for sexual pleasure and the release of orgasm; but often it's the tension relief that someone experiences physiologically from orgasm. It's a great way to regulate mood for someone who's feeling a little bit more depressed or is feeling anxious and it's also in that regard helpful for people who are trying to get to sleep at night. The other common reason is for boredom. So the thing I want you to realize is that you may choose to masturbate for many different reasons and you may also choose to have many different styles of masturbation. But if you are like many, you may still be using what you figured out probably early in your puberty. And so by that I mean, most people are using their hand, but you don't just want you to make that assumption. I work with both men and women who sometimes enjoy just like, rubbing up against a mattress or pillows. They may be used to using a vibrator. That may be above or below the underwear. You never really know what's someone's stlye or preference is untill you ask. But I also want to appreciate that it's a private experience. The only thing I'd have you consider is whether or not your masturbation style may in any way have a negative impact on a partnered experience. Because as I mentioned before, if you are rubbing up against something, like a mattress, that kind of friction is something typically, it's very difficult for a partner to duplicate. So if that's the case, and you ever notice a masturbation style interferes with a partnered experience, go back to the basics and try and explore other ways to bring yourself to orgasm.