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I think the biggest secret to self-actualization is that there's really no such thing, because as a human being for you to go through life you need to be open to learning and growing and evolving. You know the person that you were yesterday does not need to be the person that you are today unless you are making the same choices that you were yesterday. So self-actualization is a combination of having a really solid relationship with yourself that includes self esteem and confidence, but it also allows for the process of learning about who you are and what you want and what you came here to do. Self-actualization is a process and it's a journey. It's not a statement and it's not an outcome. You know, I would feel foolish to say that I am a self-actualized person, because in stating that, I would be insinuating that my growth is done. You know, so if accomplishing a goal, you know it starts out, it's you conceive the idea, and then you go through the pregnancy which is all of the steps that you need to take, and then it's born into life, whether that's a relationship or that's a professional accomplishment or it's a degree, whatever the accomplishment is. Then there is that in-between space, and people who are on the path of self-actualization really delight in that in-between space, and they are comfortable in that in-between space, and they love the cycle of life where it's life and then growth and then death and then rebirth. You know they really embrace that and all of the metaphors and ways that it manifests in our life.