What's the Key to Addiction Recovery?

Learn the keys to addiction recovery from Dr. Paul Hokemeyer in this Howcast video.


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People can become addicted to almost anything -- alcohol, drugs, sex, TV, the Internet, food, gambling. In this video series, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. Paul Hokemeyer discusses every kind of addiction and how you can overcome them -- or help a loved one break his addiction.




The keys to addiction recovery are first of all, an incredible capacity to be honest and an incredible capacity to work through your fears. Addictions are something that are very tightly embedded in us. They're something that we're very addicted to. We're addicted to our addictions and so getting rid of them requires an enormous amount of courage and it requires an enormous amount of strength. A lot of people recover, millions of people recover. There's incredible hope and healing for people who suffer from addictions. The keys are first of all, willingness to admit that you have a problem, addictions are surrounded by what we call defense mechanisms. The two most prominent of these are what we call denial and rationalization. Denial tells us that we don't have a problem and rationalization tells us that our problem really isn't all that bad. So in order to recover from addictions we need to break through these defense mechanisms and get sober, and then figure out a way of staying sober and incorporating recovery into our life.


  • Dr. Paul Hokemeyer

    Dr. Paul Hokemeyer is a licensed marriage and family therapist based at Caron Treatment Center’s NYC office. In addition to holding a Ph.D. in Psychology, Dr. Hokemeyer holds a doctorate in the law. A nationally-recognized expert on family dynamics and addictions, Dr. Hokemeyer is on the panel of experts for The Dr. Oz Show, where he writes a bi-monthly blog. He also regularly contributes to CNN Headline News, Good Morning America, The Today Show, truTV and Oprah Radio. He authors a bi-weekly column for Telluride Inside Out titled "Shrink Wrap" and is a national spokesperson for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.