Learn how to flirt with your own girlfriend in this online flirting lesson from Howcast.
Speaker 1: So, we’re talking about to flirt when you’ve kind of already captured the object of your attention, like how to flirt with your girlfriend. And a lot of times, men being the prototypical hunters, we don’t know what to do with it a lot of times once we’ve captured it. Just because you’re together now, doesn’t mean she knows all the things you’re still thinking in your head. You’re still thinking that she’s beautiful, and that you’re lucky to have her, but sometimes you don’t necessarily show it or appreciate it. Now, women are driven by one thing, and that’s emotion, and so what you want to do is make her feel positive emotion as much as you can. One of the ways, like we had been talking, is just simple touches and kisses.
Speaker 2: Oh, my God. That’s so huge.
Speaker 1: I know. Once you’ve gotten into the place where you’re very comfortable sexually with each other, you forget about the little, you come up behind them and nuzzle them on the neck.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Or, you know, kiss them goodbye or hello, every day. And let them know how beautiful they look. Pretend you’re still dating. Come home with a random set of flowers. They just want to know that you’re thinking of them. Do you agree?
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I completely agree. And another thing I would add is that women love words, a lot of women. There’s a great book that I’d love to suggest for any couple to read is The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It’s an amazing book for relationships and to keep them about alive and about flirting. So there’s five different ways that people connect with each other. So figure out what makes her tick. Figure out what makes you tick. For me, I know, and for a lot of women, it’s affirmations. It’s saying, ‘Baby, you are so beautiful,’ or, ‘You look really hot in that.’
Speaker 1: And I heard the guys say, ‘Well, obviously she is. I wouldn’t be with her if she wasn’t.’ But women need to hear it. And it’s not a neediness thing. It’s just, they need to know that you still find them as attractive as you did the same day, that you find them more exciting to be with than the first day, and the words can go so far. Simple things like, ‘I love you,’ ‘I love being with you,’ or, ‘You make me so happy.’
Speaker 2: ‘I’m so lucky to be with you.’ Something like that comes across so well, and it’s so easy. You don’t even have to think about it and you don’t have to have that much effort into a word. But it will go a long way.
Speaker 1: And then, some simple gestures. If you live together, you leave something out for her in the morning. If she wakes up and sees it, it’s just so nice.
Speaker 2: Post-It notes, that’s one of my favorites.
Speaker 1: Post-It notes are great. I hide them around the house sometimes so when they’re looking for something, I don’t even know when they’re going to be found, but I know that they’re there and they’re just going to pop up and it makes her day a little bit.
Speaker 2: Love it.