He’s just said the three words you’ve been longing to hear: “Meet my friends.” Now you just have to win them over.
You will need
- A boyfriend who wants you to meet his friends
- Your boyfriendu2019s friends
- And a determination to be liked
Step 1 Learn names Ask your boyfriend if he has a picture of his best buds so you will be able to put faces with names. Using a person’s name is a proven way to get on their good side.
Don’t try picturing them naked to settle your nerves—you’ll only be more nervous, and probably never sleep peacefully again.
Step 2 Introduce yourself Introduce yourself—shake their hand, make eye contact, smile, and repeat something about them that your boyfriend told you, like ‘You play soccer, right?’ or ‘Glad to hear that rash cleared up.’ On second thought, just smile.
Step 3 Be friendly not flirty Come across as friendly but not so friendly that your behavior could be misconstrued as flirting. Their first loyalty is to their bud, so if they think you’re coming on to them, you’re screwed.
Step 4 Be unassuming Be unassuming. Your boyfriend may treat you like royalty, but that doesn’t mean his friends want to be your faithful subjects. If something irritates you, bring it up with your boyfriend later—not by throwing a public temper tantrum.
Step 5 Be positive Don’t criticize your boyfriend in front of his friends or try to get them on your side of a disagreement. It should go without saying that you shouldn’t criticize them, either.
Step 6 Be a sport If forced to watch sports, be a good sport yourself. Don’t whine, don’t ask when the game will be over, and most important, don’t make him regret bringing you!
Keep your tongue out of your boyfriend’s mouth—it will make his pals uncomfortable, and they’ll give him grief later.
Step 7 Win them over with tasty treats Not sure you’ve conquered them? Then it’s time to bring in the heavy artillery. Goodwill comes cheap when you’re armed with cookies, brownies, and pies.
According to one survey, 83% of men say excluding his friends is a relationship deal-breaker.