How To Tell Your Friend They Are Making a Big Mistake By Getting Married
- May 14, 2008
- 5,875 Views
Writer
Rosemarie_Lennon
Voice-over
Peter Coleman
The Bride
Lynn Justinger
Fiancee
Andrew Kimler
The Friend
Nicholas E. Calhoun
AD/AC
Myo Campbell
Music
Andy Gabrys
You just know your pal is making a terrible mistake. But you’re going to need more than your intuition to stop the wedding.
You Will Need
- A calm approach
- Reasoned arguments
- Acceptance of the final decision
Step 1: Time it
Find a time when you can speak with your friend privately, in a quiet setting. Don’t wait until the last minute (like a week before the wedding)—one to six months before the big day would be ideal.
Step 2: Stay calm
Broach the subject calmly. Your argument is not going to hold much sway if you’re on the verge of hysteria when you deliver it.
Step 3: Be reasonable
Present all the reasons you believe your pal will regret it if he or she walks down that aisle. Deliver them as you would a well-thought-out work presentation.
“You’ll no longer be able to screw other people,” is not really a valid argument.
Step 4: Anticipate objections
Anticipate the betrothed’s objections so you’re prepared to answer protests like, “But my parents will lose ten grand if we cancel the reception hall this late.”
Step 5: Paint a picture
Paint a vivid picture of the grim life you foresee for your friend if he or she goes ahead with the wedding.
Keep referring to the wedding as a “travesty.” Research shows that if you repeat something enough, people start to believe it.
Step 6: Offer support
Offer to support the person with the fallout that accompanies canceling a wedding.
Step 7: Offer a compromise
Offer a compromise. Suggest that the person at least postpone the wedding for a while.
Step 8: Accept it
If, despite your best efforts, the person decides to ignore your advice and say “I do,” accept the decision and put on a happy face. Hey, maybe your friend really does know best.
About 20% of engaged couples end up calling off their wedding.
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Comments (5)
I love the chase scene. This is good stuff.
over 3 years ago by scopius
Well done - funny but sure gets the point across!
over 3 years ago by jobetsy
the bliss factor, lol
over 3 years ago by nb44wwrc
in any case you need be polite to tell your friend about this
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