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You Will Need
- A calm approach
- Reasoned arguments
- Acceptance of the final decision
Find a time when you can speak with your friend privately, in a quiet setting. Don’t wait until the last minute (like a week before the wedding)—one to six months before the big day would be ideal.
Broach the subject calmly. Your argument is not going to hold much sway if you’re on the verge of hysteria when you deliver it.
Present all the reasons you believe your pal will regret it if he or she walks down that aisle. Deliver them as you would a well-thought-out work presentation.
Anticipate the betrothed’s objections so you’re prepared to answer protests like, 'But my parents will lose ten grand if we cancel the reception hall this late.'
Paint a picture
Paint a vivid picture of the grim life you foresee for your friend if he or she goes ahead with the wedding.
Offer to support the person with the fallout that accompanies canceling a wedding.
Offer a compromise
Offer a compromise. Suggest that the person at least postpone the wedding for a while.
If, despite your best efforts, the person decides to ignore your advice and say 'I do,' accept the decision and put on a happy face. Hey, maybe your friend really does know best.